Anxiety

It’s not just the feeling of butterflies before you go into an interview. It’s the constant disbelief, the nauseous feeling that sits at the pit of your stomach for no reason. You could wake up on Sunday morning, feel fine, get ready and as soon as you go to leave the house, it hits you like a ton of bricks. The worst possible thoughts circling around your head. What if I leave my hair straighteners on? Did I lock the back door? Did I leave my lights on? What if I forget my keys? What if I see someone who doesn’t like me? What if I see someone who I know? What if my friend is late? I will look ridiculous waiting for her!! They consistently circle around and around. Like a dull headache that won’t go away, you feel trapped like there is no way out, which then can trigger you to start panicking. It leads you to turn around and head straight back up to your room because that’s classed as your safe haven.

Even though you are back in your safe place, it still doesn’t stop all the negative thoughts going round and round your head like your stuck on a rollercoaster with no end. This is when the sickness worsens, your chest tightens, which causes you to lose your breathe, you try to remind yourself to breathe but those thoughts are out weighed by all the uneasy thoughts. Breathe, it’ll be ok, you try to remind yourself every second. This can last from an hour to a day, a week or even a month. You know you need to control the thoughts, but thats easier said than done. You feel no one understands why you’ve had to cancel plans that day because you physically couldn’t leave the house. Anxiety is crippling, you second guess every move, you find it hard to make decisions on your own.

If you’ve done something wrong, you over analyse the situation. You worry about what people think of you. When you meet someone new your anxiety is telling you that they are judging you and that they can’t even be bothered to talk to you, but you don’t see that that person who is talking to you actually thinks you’re a great person. You never seem to understand why you feel this way but the thoughts just take over! You’re trapped in this cycle which seems never ending. I promise you that it will get better, baby steps, talk to someone about the way you’re feeling. I know how you feel, I’ve been here, I can’t say I’m fully out of this place because if I said that I was I would be lying. I want you to know if you’re dealing with these thoughts DAILY it’s so important to talk about it, you never know your best friend could be dealing with the same thing but again, feels like they can’t talk to anyone. You could be that ONE person who starts the conversation to help them out, I promise it’ll help you in the long run.

In 2013, there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK, this is a crazy amount considering this is only from those who have opened up about their mental health. 75% of young people who are diagnosed with a mental health disorder are NOT receiving treatment, due to the lack of funding and research surrounding mental health.

Anxiety and all mental health conditions need to be taken seriously. The main thing I want you to take from this is that, again it’s okay to say you need help, this shows that you understand you have a problem that needs to be taken care of. Also, if you feel your friend is having a tough time, offer them your time, I promise they’ll really appreciate it.

I just wanted to add a massive thank you for all the support from my last blog post, I cannot believe the amount of feedback I’ve had from it. The fact that you guys have taken time out of your day to read it and to even share it, it means the world to me!! I cannot thank you all enough. Much love to you all xx

 

(Anxiety UK – http://www.anxietyuk.org.uk )

Mental Health.

It’s okay not to be okay.

 

I feel that this topic is very fitting for today, as it is World Suicide Prevention Day. I find it crazy how it is the 21st Century and there is still a huge stigma surrounding Mental Health. Mental illness can affect anybody, and the most unfortunate thing is that the majority of those who suffer, sadly stay silent. They feel like they can’t talk about how they are feeling, because you’re quick to think that that friend you haven’t seen in months is “unsociable” because they always cancel plans last minute with what you think is a “stupid excuse”, but you never think to double check whether they’re okay, or just say “that’s ok, I’m here if there is anything you want to talk about, let me know when you’re ready” instead you say “you never come out” or “stop being so boring, why do I bother”. I’m not saying that every friend who cancels plans last minute suffers from a mental health condition, I’m just saying if there is a pattern that seems to occur there may be something more than “being busy”.

It’s so important to start the conversation, to open that door to offer them your time. Whether it be via phone, in person or text. Sometimes just saying “I’m here for you whenever” means so much to them because you are someone they love, it gives them the opportunity to talk about how they are feeling. If your friend Susan has been a little quiet recently or acting differently start the conversation, it’s okay not to be okay.

At least 1 in 4 people will experience some sort of Mental Illness at some point in their life, whether that be OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder), Bipolar, Anxiety or Depression.

Suicide is the biggest killer in men under the age of 45. At least 84 men every week take their own lives to suicide every week, thats over 4,000 men every year! This figure needs to change!

Young women between the ages of 16 to 24 are almost three times more likely (26%) to experience a common mental health problem as their Male contemporaries (9%) and have higher rates of self harm, bipolar disorder and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

I think that as a whole we can all do something to help break the stigma surrounding mental illness. Whether that be speaking out about our own experiences or being there to help support your family and friends who may need that extra bit of your time as they may need someone to talk to.

For those who are struggling, please don’t suffer in silence. It’s important to speak to someone whether you speak to a friend, family member or healthcare professional, or there are loads of charities out there to offer help and support 24/7.

Please remember, it’s okay not to be okay you’re not ALONE.

Take care of yourself, its ok to be selfish sometimes x

Helpful charities:

(all info listed above, from NHS Mental Health Helplines)