You make me feel like I’m not good enough, that I don’t deserve to love or I don’t deserve to be loved. You cause me to question every person who comes into my life because you tell me “they don’t even like you so why are you bothering”. You make me fear the outside world, some days you take over everything. I cannot message a close friend without you telling me they’re going to hate you for what you’re telling them, they’re going to leave you. Some days I lay in bed and you tell me why should I even go to work everyone is going to ignore you so don’t bother. You cause me to throw up, to constantly back and forth to the toilet.
You’ve lived with me for far too long. I’m tired. I’m tired of missing out on events, whether that’s with friends or family. You drain my energy, to a point where I can’t complete simple tasks, you force me to stay in bed.
I need you to leave me alone. You’re not here to stay and you will not stay. I’m sick and tired of you.
I know I can’t do this on my own, I cannot overcome this on my own. I’ve tried and guess what, you won as you always do. You’re not wining this time! I AM.
I know that I’m not alone. Everyone has their own battles and this is one of mine. So here goes the process of leaving you.
So for the person reading this. It’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok not to feel 100% everyone has their demons, we just need to supporteach other in our recovery no matter what you’re recovering from. I believe in you and I will be behind you the whole process. You’ve got this.
I feel like Mental health is like the weather. When the sun is shining or it’s just a genuinely beautiful day, you may be having the best day mentally, your anxiety is at bay or you’ve actually made it out of bed. But when the weather changes, whether that is in the same day as the sunshine, it rains, but when it rains it pours. The rain resembles the negative thoughts, the over whelming feeling of anxiety or your depression has hit an all time low. The rain lingers, turns to thunder, then lightning but still continues to rain. You feel there is no rainbow in sight.
When you feel you have your mental health under control whatever that may be, if you’re like me I am just waiting for that rain to fall on a sunny day. Imagine this, it’s your day off you wake up early you actually feel refreshed for the first time since you can remember. You proceed with the usual routine, as soon as you sit there and be silent with your thoughts, you realise “okay, so I’m in a good mood. Amazing for the first time in a while. But why?? Why am I in a good mood?? This usually means something bad is going to happen. But when is it going to happen..” these questions rotate around my head like a hamster running as fast as it’s little legs can handle. This makes your beautiful sunny day turn to a massive storm in a matter of hours.
When I’m expecting this storm that I know for sure is brewing, I make myself panic, overthink every step I make. I feel vulnerable. I feel I’m letting everyone down around me, that I am treating people a way I would never want to be treated. I’m becoming the person I despise. I don’t feel the same.
I’m fully aware that the only person who can change these thoughts and feelings are myself. Instead of seeing all the negatives, try to see the positives. At the end of the day, I am lucky to be here today. Where I am in my life. But that’s the problem, when will I feel good enough or worthy enough?? Will I be able to overcome this stage in my life?? I ask the same questions multiple times a day. If I’ve not completed a task I should have completed, I feel I’ve let everyone down that I’m not worthy of this opportunity. If I’ve forgotten to do something that I promised to do, I feel I’ve let everyone down that no one will ever trust me.
2019 was suppose to be the year that I focused on myself. Focused on this, what you’re reading The World of Meg. But things have gotten in the way, I’m gonna just admit I’ve been struggling mentally with a lot of things. My Anxiety it 100% still present as much as I want it to magically disappear, but it won’t. If I ignore it, it’ll still be there tomorrow. I’ve felt so unmotivated. But I want to get back to writing. I have things I want to open up about but I need to fully accept I’m ready first. Time does heal but if you don’t face that fear of re-living that period of your life you won’t be able to over come it. It takes time. Don’t rush.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you. Thank you for sticking with me. Thank you for being so patient with me.
Self Acceptance means accepting yourself fully for the person you are.
It’s such an amazing thing to be able to fully accept yourself for who you are and not for who you wish to be. I mean don’t get me wrong I am still waiting for the right time to fully accept myself. I may never be content with myself, it may take years for me to be able to feel beautiful or at least mediocre, and to feel okay in my own skin. Like in my last post (Insecure – Body Image.) I touched on the way I feel about myself. I do wish I had the confidence in myself to do whatever I want to do. I subconsciously worry about the way I look more than I’d like to admit.
I feel this time of year, as Christmas is quickly approaching, people are trying to diet, lose some weight so they can indulge this holiday season. I feel like so many people feel so guilty for eating whatever the hell they want. Some may struggle to eat at Christmas in front of family as they may have had a bad experience in the past. You’re afraid to indulge in the chocolates, roast dinner just incase Auntie Jane you haven’t seen for years makes you feel insecure about how different you look since the last time you’ve seen her, scared she’ll say something about your weight or those little insecurities that ONLY you see when you look at yourself. In actual fact, she won’t say anything. But every time someone stares at you, you think that they’re thinking that you’ve got a hairy face or that your double chin is way too prominent.
Let me remind you that you’re perfectly fine! You’re beautiful. You’re strong and brave. Don’t ever feel bad for feeling beautiful. For some reason, women and men who call themselves beautiful are called selfish, self absorbed or “up themselves”. But in actual fact we need to build each other up rather than knocking ourselves down. Don’t ever feel guilty for thinking or saying you look beautiful, it isn’t a crime. Don’t just say it light heartedly, say it like you mean it, because you know, you really are BEAUTIFUL. Don’t ever let anyone say any different. Just because you don’t look like that girl that’s on your Insta feed. If someone tries to dim your light, don’t ever let them have a negative impact on the way you feel about yourself, don’t let that negative Nelly tell you how to feel about yourself. They’re probably extremely insecure about themselves. If you’re gonna change anything, make sure it’s for yourself, not for anyone else! I know this is so hard but, you really are beautiful inside and out.
If you take anything from this blog post, I just want you to feel that it’s ok to say you feel beautiful, because it’s true, you really are. I know it is hard to tell yourself, but I’m telling you now it is so true! You don’t need the layers of makeup, but if you feel most confident or beautiful with makeup on, so be it do whatever the hell you want because you know what you only have ONE life so live it! Surround yourself with people who care, and who make time for you and make an effort for you, get rid of the ones who drag you down!! It’s not worth your time. Take care of yourselves x
Ps. Im so sorry that I’ve missed weeks of uploading, I’ve had a bit of a writers block. But Im hoping to be back. I want to fully throw myself into this next year. Try my best to help either ONE or more people. Just remember you’re amazing and doing a great job, thank you for sticking with me xx