It’s okay to feel crappy, it’s okay to be self conscious, to not love yourself. It’s okay to have bad days whether your mental health is playing up more than usual. Don’t feel guilty for feeling this way, we are human and we have emotions. You don’t have to pretend that everything is ok.
If you feel you should be happy because, you have a family, you have a job, a roof over your head or everything seems like it is in place for you. You could have all the things you desire and still feel like you haven’t got it all together. You feel like everything is out of your control. The thing is we beat ourselves up over the fact that you should be happy, you step back and think, why am I feeling this way? What’s causing this emptiness? But remind yourself that you are allowed to feel this way. Yes, you can help yourself out by maybe writing down everything you’re thankful for, whether that be your health or your job. Try to write down as much as you can, so when you feel like all the negative thoughts are taking over you can look back and think of what opportunities you have been given. The bad days help shape who we are tomorrow, not what we are today.
However, don’t feel bad for feeling this way. No one, I repeat no one has the perfect life. From an outsiders point of view, you may think that Mark from round the corner has everything going for him, he has loads of friends, always smiling, the dream job everything that you define as perfect. The thing is, Mark suffers from depression, OCD and anxiety he pretends to be happy, that everything is going perfectly fine, but in actual fact he feels like his world is crumbling right in front of him. He puts this mask on, and he becomes the person who everyone wishes they were. But he feels like he is slowly rotting away, in his crippling mental illness. He’s too scared to talk to someone because he feels because of the stereotypical traits of a man, he should be the “strong male” to not cry, to not show weakness. When in actual fact, there is nothing wrong with a man talking about his worries. Bottling it up eats away at you.
Did you know that the biggest killer of men under the age of 45 is suicide, this has to change, we need to break this stigma. Men need to open up, don’t force your friend/partner to tell you what’s on their mind. Just offer your shoulder, offer them your time. Listen to what they have to say, a problem shared is a problem halved. Don’t shut them down, they have a right to feel this way. If he brushes you off, just remind him that you’re always there to talk, it doesn’t take long. Just check on him.